Ep. 55 - Forgiveness
Forgiveness is an easy subject to talk about but a hard one to execute. There are a lot of perspectives on what forgiveness is and how you do it in everyday life. For example, you’ve probably heard the phrase, “forgive and forget.” Or the counter saying, “forgive but not forget.” Is it really possible to do either one? How can you really forget when someone does you wrong. And if you don’t forget it, can you really forgive? I’m not sure if we have a good answer to these questions but we do know forgiveness is essential to building a healthy marriage. If you don’t, the unforgiveness will fester underneath and eventually blow up into a major argument or worse. So how can you forgive the worst of sins and are there times where forgiveness is impossible? Listen to this episode where we attempt to give you the proper perspective on forgiveness so you can incorporate it into your marriage.
Key takeaways:
Why forgiveness is essential to marriage
It affects you mentally, emotionally and physically
Intimacy slowly goes away
Frequency of arguments increase
You can forgive without forgetting
Letting go so it doesn’t affect you emotionally
Don’t give up your power to the past
Forgetting a birthday vs infidelity
Can’t just tell your spouse to forgive and forget. You need to heal the wound
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you can truly trust that person
Trust will have to be earned
Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness
Forgive but don’t be taken advantage of. Don’t be naive
Unforgiveness only hurts you
Forgiveness gives you the courage to move on.
How do you know when you’ve truly forgiven?
Honest assessment that it doesn’t bother you emotionally and mentally
You stop bringing up the subject
You can actually love the other person
Strengthens the bond
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